Why You Shouldn't Give Up On Yourself
Have you ever felt as if you weren’t doing enough in life although everyone around you seems to think you are? How can they see your accomplishments and progress, but you can’t? I frequently feel as if everyone my age has better jobs, is traveling more, enjoying their life, and making more money than I am. These comparisons often lead to more pity parties than I can count. Before I know it I’ve begun speaking and thinking negative about myself, fixated on the could be’s, and would be’s.
Surely I am not as bad as I think I am because it could always be worse. In moments like this I have to take a step back to reflect on my life, my goals, and accomplishments. I have to stop comparing myself to others, instead I need to be grateful for my life, and be proud of who I am.
Prior to last year I only thought about my goals once at mid-year, and again on New Year’s Eve. So one thing I began doing to help with this is to write down my goals for both the current, and upcoming year. I now take a moment to reflect every two to three months to see where I stand with my goals. This allows me to see clearer, and better rationalize in those moments of doubt and discouragement. At the end of the year I can see which goals I was, or was not able to accomplish. Today I want to share with you how I handled what seemed like a lack of progress for 2015.
Out of the five goals I set, I only accomplished two. That’s right two! I couldn’t believe how stagnant I was for a whole year. So many questions went through my mind like what was I doing, who, or what took my attention and time? Why didn’t I notice this sooner? I then decided to think of everything I did achieve that may not have been on my list. I realized I had actually made some kind of progress. I started attending women’s bible study, picked up crafting as a hobby, was given the vision for this blog, and learned how to appropriately speak to others in times of conflict.
As for the goals I didn’t reach, I had to remain positive and focused. I couldn’t blame anyone but myself, I slacked off and lost sight of my vision. I had to re-assess my action steps for the upcoming year because I am determined to win. The unaccomplished goals of 2015 are now added to 2016’s list. I also created a vision board to hang on my wall as a daily reminder to keep working hard, and never give up. I made sure to included lots of affirmations and encouraging statements as well. I had to understand life is constantly changing, plans can get deterred, but most important I’m working at my own pace, not anyone else's.
Although it’s easy to become discouraged if you don’t reach your goals in the time intended, relax, take a deep breath, and know that it is going to be okay. Eventually you will get to where you need to be, but first you must believe in yourself. Then break your goals into smaller attainable steps. Self-reflection is key!
How do you handle your set-backs, and what goals are you working to achieve?