Hating My Flaws Would Be Hating Who I Am
Flaws are often seen as a mere roadblock to perfectionism. Remorse, and ridicule are just a few of the emotions we typically experience when faced with the reality of our flaws. After repeatedly hearing what seems like unwarranted, condescending, and overbearing perspectives of my life, I began to change parts of myself to please others. I wanted to fit in because I hated feeling “different” from everyone else. I questioned my existence up until the day I had a life changing epiphany, “be proud of who you have become”. From that moment on I decided I would never again let anyone make me feel ashamed for being myself. Being different is a good thing.
When you are constantly consumed with your flaws, it can ruin your self-confidence, or worse, cause self-hatred. Instead of viewing my flaws as something to hate, I have to remember they are a part of me. My flaws create my existence, my personality, and demeanor. Hating my flaws would be hating who I am. Despite the world teaching us that our flaws are bad, and should be hidden, I want to bring mine to the light. In order to fully accept who I am, I can no longer be in denial about myself. I have listed some flaws that I am happy to say makes me into the woman I am today.
1. Many people assume I have an attitude, or that I am “mugging” them.
Truth is, it’s completely unintentional because I really love to sit, and observe the people around me. I am either admiring someone’s style, looking at a nice pair of shoes, or noticing the way someone carries themselves. Not to mention, a girl can never be too aware of her surroundings.
2. My inner ego wants me to be strong, opinionated, and reactive to everything it hears.
There are two things in this world I refuse to let anyone get away with; disrespect and hurting my feelings. I justify this by saying if I don’t speak up for myself then who will? You’ve heard the saying “it’s up to you to teach people how to treat you”. This brings me to my next point, I have a hard time letting things go because I tend to overthink everything.
3. I don’t know how to be sexy.
Not even if I tried. This matte lipstick is drying out my lips, I keep pulling mascara off my eyelashes, and my make-up is smeared because I have rubbed my eyes several times. These heels are hurting my feet, I can’t wait to take this bra off, and my thighs are sweating underneath this dress.
4. I have new stretch marks.
I have tried every combination of coconut oil, olive oil, Vicks vapor rub, lemon juice, and exfoliating gel there is. I definitely went through a phase of feeling self-conscious about my body, especially with it being summer. Over time I have learned to accept them as best I can, after all it could always be worse.
When it’s all said and done, I love who I am. I am beautifully flawed. You too should love your flaws, once you do you’ll come into self-acceptance. While some flaws can be changed to improve yourself, there are others that stick with us for a lifetime.
Stay confident in who you are. After all flaws don’t have to be a bad thing, instead let’s create a new definition for them. Remember, no one is perfect.