Hating My Flaws Would Be Hating Who I Am

Hating My Flaws Would Be Hating Who I am_ Held In High Esteem

Flaws are often seen as a mere roadblock to perfectionism. Remorse, and ridicule are just a few of the emotions we typically experience when faced with the reality of our flaws. After repeatedly hearing what seems like unwarranted, condescending, and overbearing perspectives of my life, I began to change parts of myself to please others. I wanted to fit in because I hated feeling “different” from everyone else. I questioned my existence up until the day I had a life changing epiphany, “be proud of who you have become”. From that moment on I decided I would never again let anyone make me feel ashamed for being myself. Being different is a good thing.


When you are constantly consumed with your flaws, it can ruin your self-confidence, or worse, cause self-hatred. Instead of viewing my flaws as something to hate, I have to remember they are a part of me. My flaws create my existence, my personality, and demeanor. Hating my flaws would be hating who I am. Despite the world teaching us that our flaws are bad, and should be hidden, I want to bring mine to the light. In order to fully accept who I am, I can no longer be in denial about myself. I have listed some flaws that I am happy to say makes me into the woman I am today.


1. Many people assume I have an attitude, or that I am “mugging” them.

 Truth is, it’s completely unintentional because I really love to sit, and observe the people around me. I am either admiring someone’s style, looking at a nice pair of shoes, or noticing the way someone carries themselves. Not to mention, a girl can never be too aware of her surroundings.


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2. My inner ego wants me to be strong, opinionated, and reactive to everything it hears.

 There are two things in this world I refuse to let anyone get away with; disrespect and hurting my feelings. I justify this by saying if I don’t speak up for myself then who will? You’ve heard the saying “it’s up to you to teach people how to treat you”. This brings me to my next point, I have a hard time letting things go because I tend to overthink everything.


3. I don’t know how to be sexy.

Not even if I tried. This matte lipstick is drying out my lips, I keep pulling mascara off my eyelashes, and my make-up is smeared because I have rubbed my eyes several times. These heels are hurting my feet, I can’t wait to take this bra off, and my thighs are sweating underneath this dress.


4. I have new stretch marks.

 I have tried every combination of coconut oil, olive oil, Vicks vapor rub, lemon juice, and exfoliating gel there is. I definitely went through a phase of feeling self-conscious about my body, especially with it being summer. Over time I have learned to accept them as best I can, after all it could always be worse.


 When it’s all said and done, I love who I am. I am beautifully flawed. You too should love your flaws, once you do you’ll come into self-acceptance. While some flaws can be changed to improve yourself, there are others that stick with us for a lifetime.

Stay confident in who you are. After all flaws don’t have to be a bad thing, instead let’s create a new definition for them. Remember, no one is perfect.